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Q: My best friend's girlfriend tried to kiss me and, for just a few seconds (literally), I kissed her back! Then I pulled away said "this is wrong" and left. I feel very bad about this. Even though I didn't instigate it, I know I participated, albeit very briefly. The thing is I have no feelings for this woman and I wonder morally, is it right to tell my friend or should I let it lie, it being little more than a two-second kiss? It's been a while since I was in a long term relationship and wonder perhaps if it was a little bit of reassuring attention - hence me momentarily falling for it!?

People make mistakes - this is one I need to deal with. Do I forget it or do I come clean with my friend?

A: What a good friend! Seriously, you sound like a very thoughtful, do-the-right-thing kind o' guy. You know kissing your best friend's gal is wrong and you take responsibility for having participated in this wrong. I say hallelujah it was only a few seconds. How often does a guy get mauled by a woman and refuse the opportunity?

This is space represents the pin-drop silence in response to the above question.

Yes, you're human/haven't had any scooty-pie lately so you kissed back-who wouldn't?

The top three reasons you do not tell your friend (Letterman style):

3. You're not interested in this woman and therefore will not be lusting after her.

2. Your best friend will HATE YOU for telling him. Not because you kissed her. No. Because you were "in" on the deception while he sat around on his thumb and rotated. No boyfriend likes to be the last to know.

1. It's not your issue to tell. It's his lousy girlfriend's issue. She kissed you setting the deception in motion. This relationship is on a downward spiral and will take care of itself.

Note of caution: If this woman is capable of trying to seduce you, her boyfriend's best friend, she is capable of back stabbing and lying. Should things fall to pieces with her and your best friend be prepared for her to point finger and implicate you. When she does, do not deign to give a response. She's an insecure kook looking for attention. Nothing worse than a desperately insecure woman.

The Short Answer: Just how bung-ugly does a girl gotta be before a woodchuck wouldn't chuck wood, if you know what I mean? Why is this guy's best friend dating such a bung-ugly girl? And does he think said friend is a loser for dating an unchuckable gal? Enquiring minds. I guess we'll never know but these are the questions that help me fall asleep at night.

In short my wood animal friend, protect yourself, your best friend and his girlfriend by finding your own gal and get chucking!

Lovingly&logically yours, Laurie