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Q: Tell me the angles you have on this:

I am *virgin* material. No experience in sex. I'm 18. Too old, maybe. I've seen plenty of dirty stuff in my days. No un-needed details, heh. Why make you sick? Anyway, big question: Should I try to get some other experience before sex with my equally virgin girlfriend? Note: If you didn't already guess, I'm a computer nerd. :-)

Signed: Computer Nerd #298

A: Dear Nerd:

Angle 1: 18 is a fine age to still be a *virgin*.

Angle 2: I don't understand the concept of getting experience prior to getting experience.

Angle 3: If you want to be a car mechanic you don't go work on bicycles...

Not to shock you or anything but have you ever thought the reason you want to experiment with your "equally virgin girlfriend" is because you want to experiment with your "equally virgin girlfriend"? Not to gain so-called pre-guy experience but because you want girl experience? Maybe your true sexual calling is with women so if that's your druthers, sure, experiment with her. You know my view: as long as both parties are legal and willing, have at it.

If you were really churnin' to be with a hunk-uh-chunk-uh-burnin' boy love, don't you think you'd be looking for a burning boy chunk? But from the little you've given me to go on I'm thinking boy love may be lower on your dinner menu. Do you think it's a coincidence that you have both access to AND a desire for your virgin girlfriend!? While the world works in mysterious ways it ain't THAT mysterious.

Since you're 18 and full of funky thoughts let me be perfectly clear: there is nothing wrong with homosexual or bi-sexual love. Nothing at all. It just is, like eye or hair color. Narrow-minded people make it a more difficult lifestyle for those who are but that's their problem which unfortunately does sometimes become yours. Time for all good little skinheads to be back on the Idaho compound...chop, chop!

The Short Answer: You wrote your note AS IF you really don't have a clue about what's going on. Lying or not being straight with others (no pun intended) is okay as long as you are honest with yourself. You may be gay, it might be a phase, but whatever it is, get off the computer and enjoy!

Lovingly and logically yours, Laurie